I've cited Steven "Curse of Knowledge" Pinker many times over the last 5 years but not mentioned his book The Blank Slate about the relative impact of nature (genetics) vs nurture (upbringing). The first sentence of the preface reads "Not another book on nature and nurture! Are there really people out there who still believe that the mind is a blank slate? Isn't it obvious to anyone with more than one child, to anyone who has been in a heterosexual relationship, or to anyone who has noticed that children learn language but house pets don't, that people are born with certain talents and temperaments? Haven't we all moved beyond the simplistic dichotomy between heredity and environment and realized that all behavior comes out of an interaction between the two?”
. . . my brother and I have half our genes in common, we went to the same schools, albeit 3 years apart and we both have three children. But despite these constraints (and being SWM beyond middle-aged, of course) we are very different creatures. My mother summed it up a while back in the context of shirts. When our Dad died in 2001, I snagged all the oul'fella's office shirts . . . and his best pair of black shoes. I wore those shirts at work until The Beloved ripped them off me back and reduced them to kitchen rags. The Brother otoh wears one shirt, throws it on a growing heap near the laundry room and buys more shirts when there are no clean ones left in the press. I'm still using The Da's shoes because I keep them for weddings, funerals and interviews which are thankfully rare events in my life. The wider run of my family (including in-laws, out-laws, nieces and neffies) split about 50:50 on the thrift v spend-thrift axis.
I've written before about Dau.II who is currently "resting" - as actors have it - between jobs because she saved enough over the previous four years of hard-graft in the catering trade to take a sabbatical. The way she phrased it " what more could I want, I have four sorts of cheese in the fridge". When she got a pay-hike, there were five sorts of cheese available for breakfast . . . and not a whiff of a foreign holiday, or payments on a car, or down-payments on a house. Looking at her peers, she explains her positive finances by noting that neither she nor Her Feller dhrink. But it must be more than that and she a notoriously light packer when travelling. If you only have two pairs of shoes, you don't need checked baggage. Dau.I otoh seems to be skint a lot of the time, not least because she will buy books, new books, of which we are storing a library-full in her bedroom at home. She went to England aged 17¾ with two suitcases and came back 4 years later with 2 tonnes of stuff - mostly books. Oddly, although I'm now a two sorts of cheese chap now, when I had no money as a student I was often to be found buying books, new books. The accumulated collection of which I guess helped the girls kick-start their own reading habits.
Now although this is all very personal, it's of limited interest because the range options and choice described above is quite limited - genetically at least. I'm on this jag at all at all because I was browsing the blogosphere and was directed to a number of comparative weekly spend-diaries for 'Millennials" - all women I think. It's quite compelling in a voyeuristic way to see how the other half gets through their pay-cheque each week, whether they are in Lisboa or NYC, and earning $40K or $160K. Because it's about Millennials, a lot of the discourse consists of cheap shots against avocado toast. Which is really quite yesterday at this stage and not worth flogging with the whip of judgement. While you're about it (if indeed you've read this far) you might check out this thoughtful deconstruction of the gender pay gap from Vox. The pay-rate graphic above is lifted from the Vox vid. Short answer: be sure to compare like with like.
Finally, I'll point out that, over the last 40 earning years, whether we had a month of dining out and weekends away OR a month of eating nothing but Caldo verde, my pay-cheque disappeared just the same. When UK academics got a 25% pay hike in the mid 1980s, I promptly went out and bought some Japanese consumer electronics and then settled down to getting through my augmented salary without being able to point to aNNything which had 25%-improved the quality of our lives - apart from the Technics HiFi: that was mildly entertaining in a vinyl sort of way. It has been my sneaking suspicion that if I'd lived higher on the hob all those thrifty years, I'd be exactly where I am now but having had more fun. No moaning, mind - cue La Môme.
The usual problem with the gender wage gap is that differences are calculated based on a point in time. A 'small' wage gap might not look important, but over 30 years that is a significant amount. Two months before I was made redundant from a MNC where I was on the Diversity Council it was acknowledged that there was a gender wage gap and the board and senior management had agreed that the wage gap would be closed by 2026. This was in 2017. The wage gap was different based on role, age and management level. I suggested that this was not good enough and if the gap couldn't be closed immediately a way around it would be to reduce men's salary by a percentage and increase women's salary by the same percentage to meet in the middle. This would be fairer, given that all the women listed would have x number of years accumulated lost wages and would continue to have a loss in salary for another 10 years. A $10k yearly difference over 10 years is $100k - a mortgage paid off, a mortgage deposit gathered, some really nice holidays, and so on. This was deemed unfair and not practical. It always seems that these things are unpractical.ReplyDelete
In 1996 during my first year on a graduate program with another MNC I read an article which suggested that equality would not be achieved until men had the same rights as women in the workspace with regards to parental leave and a great solution would be to allow parents to share parental leave as they saw fit. I couldn't believe that I hadn't seen this suggestion before. A lot of the wage gap explanation focuses on women making choices like leaving to have babies which explains the wage gap (apparently we are supposed to assume that the fathers don't care if they have children or not and are therefore not part of the choice). Excitedly I went around the team, 45 of us, I was the only woman. "Aren't you cross you don't have the right to stay at home with the children, aren't you cross that women have more rights in this area then you, wouldn't you take this opportunity if it was offered?". There was a lot of shifty movements, bumbling explanations as to why it wouldn't work - women wouldn't want to give up part of their maternity leave, it's better for the children to have the mother around, it would be too complicated to administer. I couldn't let the last one pass "We are a team of highly skilled network designers, we make data fly around the world, it's not difficult to build a system where a HR team cross checks with another HR team on proposed shared leave". Finally one man was honest enough to admit that he wouldn't want the choice as he'd be afraid his wife would make him choose and it wouldn't be good for his career.
In Singapore as young men have to do 2 years national service (but the women don't) they are offered more for entry level jobs then women. It's nice and plain on advertisements, usually anywhere from $500 - $2000 a month difference. This is to balance that they have had to sacrifice 2 years of earning that women have been able to take advantage of. Sounds ok, except $500 per month over 30 years is $180k. When you are offered a job here, you have to provide your last pay slip and your new salary is offered based on what you got before.
In the same MNC as the wage gap admission, the C Level Team for our business unit was all men apart from two women. All the men were married and had children and had stay at home wives. One of the women was single/childless, the other was married with children but had only become senior management when her husband who was ex army retired from the army with full pension when the kids were late teens and looked at them full time at home for 2 years.
Will retire now and dunk my head in some cold water to calm down.