Dancehalls? Today's Wordaday quote:
Diversity is being invited to the party; inclusion is being asked to dance.
Now that we have cars, even in deepest rural Ireland, your choice of dance-hall is much wider. And the rise and rise of on-line dating provides another set of options. Not all the people on internet dating sites are axe-murderers. Attraction is more than pheromones; and compatability is more than bonking. You've got to talk about something apart from how was it for you? over breakfast. It's a multi-variate optimisation problem although few people would actually implement this in a computer program. Although Charles Darwin famously made a list.
|Children||Avoid tedious in-laws|
|Companion in age||Work and productivity|
|Wife better than a dog||Clever men in clubs|
|Books and Music||Free time|
But I put it to you that, in any group of 100 people, you could surely make a go of a long-term relationship with 1 of them. Indeed if you popped the question and were reasonably cont[in]ent, you wouldn't know any different from if you had washed up with your Platonic ideal partner. That 1% rule means that, if you'd just go looking, there are 76 million people alive today who'd be Good Enough as a spouse. Obviously fewer than that if you eliminate people old enough to be your granny and those below the age of consent. You wouldn't want to make the first date a permenant fixture but neither do you want to restless flit from one partner to the next until all your pals are married. Numberphile has algorithmed this optimisation problem:
Choosing a toilet or a secretary or a wife - Ria Symonds or
Stable Marriage Problem. - Emily Riehl or
The mathematics of love by Hannah Fry at TED
Dan Savage writes an agony column in Seattle. Here he is rounding up from a 0.64 to The One. |Just be content with the blessings you have - you could travel further and fare worse. Dan Savage and partner [the happy pair shown at the top] are leading the charge with a project to support and empower oppressed BLT teenagers showing, through their well-lived adult lives that, although High School will probably be grim